5 Basic Tasks Many People Ignore, But That Are Essential to Success

Today’s professional environment, whether entrepreneurial or not, requires a different energy than it did 50 years ago. We spend the better part of our days in front of screens, answering emails, texts, spending time on the Internet; we have become intertwined with this technology and it’s impossible to escape it, especially in the professional world. Because of this, we are essentially always at others’ beck and call. Whether we like it or not, we are always “working” because of it.


Having a good work ethic and good time-management skills will surely help you manage this complicated technological world of business, however there are some other steps you can take, basic tasks you can do on a daily basis, that can help you succeed in this fast-paced world. Many of these steps you may find obvious or redundant, but they are necessary if you want to lead a successful, healthy life in whatever field you may be in.

Task #1: Eat breakfast

This is a hard one for a lot of people – eating a good meal at 6 in the morning can sometimes be difficult due to lack of appetite, and more often than not, a lack of time. We understand that getting yourself ready in the morning, and possibly getting your kids ready as well, is a feat in and of itself, however we cannot stress enough the importance of eating a proper, healthy meal in the morning! Eating a nutritious breakfast will assure that you are not only feeding your body, but feeding your brain as well; the long work days can be taxing, but a good breakfast in the morning can help get you through. If you know mornings are difficult for you, try preparing something at night for the next morning to save some time, like a smoothie you can take on the go, or these great breakfast pancakes.

Task #2: Turn off your devices at night

It has become the norm to be consistently checking our phones and computers right up until we hit the pillow for a good nights rest. This has serious effects on our brains, eyes, and our sleep quality. Looking at screens not only affects sleepiness and alertness the next day, but also suppresses melatonin levels. Sleeping gives our body and our minds the time it needs to rest, rejuvenate and recuperate, and without enough of it (including the quality of sleep), we cannot do our jobs to the best of our abilities. Check out this article for more information on the effects of looking at screens before sleep.

Task #3: Take sufficient breaks during the workday

Sometimes our workdays end up being 12 or 15 hours long. It’s wonderful that you are so busy and take your job as seriously as you do, however it is imperative that you take enough breaks during the day to stretch, breathe some fresh air and give your eyes a break from the computer screen. The world will not stop during your breaks: taking five minutes to give your mind and body a rest will actually serve to do wonders for the quality of the work you’re producing. The importance of this is increased if you work at a desk – stretch those legs!

Task #4: Allow time for yourself every day, despite your workload

This can be related to the idea of taking breaks throughout the day. Needless to say your job is extremely important and hopefully a passion of yours, but your health and your mind are also important. It’s essential not to lose sight of who you are in the midst of the chaos: take time every day for yourself, whether it’s taking a bath, playing a board game with the family or reading a favorite book.

Task #5: Help others as much as you can

It is true that in the corporate world, often it feels like an “every-man-for-themselves” atmosphere, however it is important to not only think about your tasks and how to accomplish them, but to be aware of your surroundings and your colleagues. Offer a helping hand whenever you can to those whom you work with; not only will you feel good about yourself, but it is a great way to enhance your executive presence in the office.

Many of these “tasks” may seem redundant or silly, however taken collectively, they can add energy, joy and motivation to your professional (and personal) life and career. It is hard to lose track of these small things in our crazy world, but taking a step back sometimes can do wonders, and can help you to see the forest for the trees.

The Peril’s of Fast Fashion

Last week, we discussed the benefits of shopping at consignment stores, one of which is that it is a very “green” was of shopping. This week we will look at fast fashion; what it is, its implications and how to (mostly) avoid it.


Fast fashion is a term that is making its way into our colloquial vocabulary due to disasters like Rana Plaza and Nike’s scandal involving the use of child labour. For those who aren’t aware of the Rana Plaza disaster, it occurred in 2013 in Dhaka, Bangladesh. The building was home to a garment factory, with one of their biggest clients being Joe Fresh of Loblaws. The building itself was incredibly unstable, with cracks in the walls and ceilings. It was so unstable that the morning of the disaster, many workers refused to go inside; their jobs were subsequently threatened, and so they had no choice but to go to work that day. Catastrophe followed and the building collapsed, killing thousands.

Unfortunately, what happened at Rana Plaza was not a one-off; garment factory collapses and fires in Bangladesh alone are fairly frequent. You may be asking why this is the case. Many of these factories are old and dilapidated, yet their business is booming; their clients are world leaders in the fashion industry: Zara, H&M, Top Shop, Joe Fresh, and many more. These companies are not aware of what occurs on the production side of things; they are very effective at turning a blind eye. After all, ignorance is bliss.

So, what now?

Many of the companies mentioned above have taken steps to improving their production practices, however it is still a far cry from what it should, and could, be. Needless to say no one is perfect, and certainly not everyone can afford to consistently purchase the finest quality items (which are typically made in better conditions and in developed countries). There are some steps, however, that one can take to minimize engagement in the fast fashion industry:

  1. Consider buying second-hand items and visiting consignment stores

If you missed our last post, click here to read about what consignment stores have to offer.

  1. Buy from local designers

Buying local not only eliminates the middle-man (and therefore many of the devastating consequences of fast fashion) but it is also a way to boost the local economy, and to support emerging talent.

  1. Check labels before you purchase

The most efficient way to know where an item of clothing was made is to check the label. Chances are, if it was made in Bangladesh, Turkey, or Indonesia, the methods of production leave much to be desired.

  1. Buy fewer, better quality items that will last

There is no doubt that creating a new wardrobe every season can feel like an accomplishment; fashions change so rapidly these days and it is in our nature to want to keep up with that change. However, if you make a conscious decision to stick to buying classic items at better quality, you will not only be creating a wardrobe that you are proud of, but one which will last you years, that you can slowly build upon over time. There is a reason why “classic” items are called classic: they never go out of style.

There is a reason why Zara is the number one fashion brand in the world; their styles are innovative, fresh, and most importantly, affordable. This post is certainly not mean to dictate where you should and should not shop, but rather to serve as a reminder that our clothes come from somewhere, and although ignorance truly is bliss, we must be cognizant, as powerful consumers, where our clothing comes from, and who our purchases are affecting.

If you would like to learn more about fast fashion, there is an incredibly informative movie entitled The True Cost (you can view it online on the website itself or on Netflix).

Consignment Stores: Diamonds in the Rough

Appearance, as we’ve discussed, is one of the pillars of executive presence; we say that it is the least important pillar, but, it is your price of entry. Part of dressing professionally and appropriately often involves owning good-quality garments that fit you correctly and will hopefully last at least a few seasons. We do understand that often it can be hard to own a wardrobe full of suits from Armani or separates from Holt Renfrew, however there is a way around buying great-quality, professional pieces that can cost an arm and a leg: consignment stores.

Nothing to wear concept, young woman deciding what to put on

Consignment stores are often overlooked when considering your next purchase; there aren’t that many around and they are typically eclipsed by bigger brands and department stores, such as Barneys New York, Sake Fifth Avenue and Macy’s. However, they can truly be an extraordinary opportunity to get your hands on a two-piece Chanel suit, for a fraction of the price. We know that you don’t necessarily want an DKNY suit that looks worn out or overused even though it boasts an impressive price tag; the best consignment stores take in only very gently used items that look, in fact, brand new. They will typically also guarantee 100% authenticity, so you can rest assured you’re buying the real thing. In addition to the financial savings you will encounter, shopping at consignment stores is also good for the psyche; it is an extremely environmentally friendly way to shop.

What Consignment Store Should I Go To?

It is imperative that you do your research before you venture off into the great unknown, and possibly spend many wasted hours hunting down a “great” bargain. Many consignment stores feature all or most of their best pieces on their website. It is always a good idea to search for consignment stores nearest you and take a look at what they have in stock, so as to avoid potential disappointment – and a wasted afternoon.

Shopping Green

Not only do you face saving a substantial amount of money on a gorgeous Marni dress, but consignment store shopping is great for the environment as well. Too often we fall prey to fast fashion, where we continuously buy cheap items of clothing that don’t last long and we subsequently end up forming a new wardrobe every four months; buying second-hand is a great way to “recycle” clothing.

The benefit of shopping at consignment stores is two-fold; firstly, it offers the opportunity to own exquisite luxury brand goods for a fraction of the price. Secondly, it is a “green” way of shopping – buying second-hand goods has a positive impact not only on your wallet, but on the environment as well. We will discuss the perils of fast fashion in next week’s blog.


The Cognitive Power of Professional Clothing

If someone were to tell you that the blazer you wore today had a significant effect on how you went about your day, what you accomplished, and how others treated you would you believe them?


Chances are you would be skeptical at best. However, recent research (as recent as a few months ago) has proven that wearing formal clothing has an impact on people’s cognitive behaviours.

Research conducted by Michael Slepian, Simon Ferber, Joshua Gold and Abraham Rutchick, entitled “The Cognitive Consequences of Formal Clothing,” explores the relationship between wearing formal clothing and different mental capabilities, and specifically, abstract cognitive processing (which is regarded as higher-level processing). Not only does clothing influence impressions made by others about oneself, but it is also responsible for influencing cognition on a broad scale, “impacting the processing style that changes how objects, people, and events are construed” (Slepian et. al. 661).

What did the study find?

 The researchers conducted five studies in total, each very detailed and elaborate, and so they won’t be discussed in detail here, however an attempt will be made to highlight important aspects of each study. Researchers used undergraduate students as participants. The first study examined the relation between the clothing participants wore and the ability for abstract processing. This study, after accounting for confounding variables such as socio-economic status, revealed that wearing relatively formal clothing was associated with increased abstract processing in everyday life. The second study served as a conceptual replication of the first study and examined another method of abstract processing. Results of this study confirmed results of the first study.

The third study manipulated clothing formality by having participants change into either formal or casual clothing. This study demonstrated that wearing formal clothing increased the extent to which participants exhibited abstract processing, which suggests a causal link between wearing formal clothing and abstract processing. The fourth study replicated the third, however used more participants; the results were replicated. Finally, the fifth study explored the proposed mechanism of the impact of formal clothing shown in the previous studies. Researchers assessed social commonality, social closeness, intimacy, power, mood and arousal. Researchers found that “felt power” significantly mediated the relationship between clothing formality and abstract processing.

Implications of this study

If someone were to tell you that the blazer you wore today had a significant effect on how you went about your day, what you accomplished, and how others treated you would you believe them? The above study is proof that what we wear in our day-to-day lives actually has a direct effect on how we think, what we do, and how we interact with others. This is not to say you should dress in a suit every day of your life to maximize this effect, however, try to be cognizant of the very real effects that clothing can have on your mind, body and spirit.

Works Cited

Slepian, Michael, Simon Ferber, Joshua Gold and Abraham Rutchick. ”The Cognitive Consequences of Formal Clothing.” Social Psychology and Personality Science 6.6 (2015): 661-668.


Recovering From a Bad First Impression

As was discussed last week in the blog about creating a favorable first impression, the power and value of a good first impression is paramount in any given situation. Creating a good first impression can lead to new opportunities, new connections and help to propel you forward, at whatever stage you’re at in your career.


In addition, as mentioned last week, typically first impressions are made with confidence, and tend to be solidified over time. However, that is not to say that you cannot recover from making a bad first impression.

According to an article in Forbes Magazine written by Dorie Clark, there are a few ways one can overcome a bad first impression. Clark interviewed Grant Halvorson, author of the book “No One Understands You and What to Do About It”, who gives readers some insight on steps they can take to overcome a bad first impression.

  1. Overload them with contrary evidence

Say, for instance, you make a bad first impression, and the root of that bad first impression is that you came across as perhaps slightly more opinionated than you truly are (often in stressful situations, such as a first interview, we sometimes act outside of our normal behaviors). Next time you meet with the person in question, be cognizant of your faults from your first meeting and try to counteract them with opposite behaviors. In this situation, take a step back and refrain from offering your opinion at any given moment; simply offer it if it’s asked of you. Also, you could go out of your way to ask the other person about their opinion on matters in question.

  1. Arrange a joint work project

Granted, this may not be possible in all situations, however arranging a project with the person with whom you made an initial bad first impression may help to patch things up. The project should be something that requires the skills of both people and an atmosphere of teamwork. When you work with another person on a project, you want to have faith in that person and believe in their capabilities, if at least for the success of the project. This will give you the chance to help repair that negative first impression you gave when the project is a success.

There are many other ways to recover from a bad first impression. Showing up to work early for a few weeks, treating colleagues to coffee after lunch, or simply being kind and friendly are all ways you can begin to repair the negative first impression you gave. These may sound cheesy or that you’re “sucking up”, however how others perceive you is extremely important, and you should take any necessary steps towards fixing that lackluster first impression.

Works Cited:

Clark, Dorie. “How to Recover From a Bad First Impression.” Forbes Magazine. Forbes. 20 Apr. 2015. Web. 3 Oct. 2015.

How to Make A (Positive) First Impression

It is no secret that first impressions are important; they have been so since the dawn of our species. As homo sapiens were evolving, a particular defence mechanism was in place which allowed for the incredibly quick judgment of another of the same kind. The ability to judge another was of incredible value; it would initiate the fight or flight response. Is the other trustworthy? Friend, or foe?

The same mechanism is still in place today. In fact, research suggests that we are not only are able to, but automatically judge another person’s personality traits based on a mere 100 millisecond exposure to a photograph of a face (Willis and Todorov 2006). Not only do we make these snap judgments subconsciously, but the first and most confident judgment we make is about the other’s trustworthiness. In addition, the same research found that not only do people generally stick with their first impression of someone, but that this impression is solidified over time (this is not to say, however, that you cannot recover from a bad first impression – you can. We will discuss this next week).

This phenomenon is directly applicable, and extremely prevalent, in the business world. Given the importance of first impressions, one of the aspects of business where this is most important is in an interview setting. A bad first impression when you walk into an interview could potentially have devastating effects. So, how can you give the best first impression?

Tips on Giving a Good First Impression Before an Interview

  1. Grooming: given that first impressions, evolutionarily speaking, are based on viewing another’s facial features, grooming (including hair, makeup and general skincare) are extremely important. Neat, coifed hair, healthy skin, and a simple, but well put-together makeup application will do wonders. It will signal to the interviewer that you are healthy and care about yourself.
  2. Dress: just like the importance of first impressions, it is no secret that dress is extremely important in business, and you could say, especially in an interview setting. It accompanies grooming in the overall first impression you give to the interviewer. Make sure to dress appropriately for the job in question (for example, don’t necessarily wear a skirt suit if applying for a job at a gym), and be sure that your clothing fits you properly, and is appropriate. An ill-fitting garment or suit will possibly lead others to think you are lazy, or simply don’t care.
  3. Presence: your overall presence – how you walk in the room, your posture, your gait, your smile – is like the cherry on top of the first impressions sundae. Presence is not really something tangible; it is a combination of many elements that create your overall aura. Your presence will signal your confidence and authority in the interview setting, two very valuable commodities in an often highly stressful situation.

Don’t let the idea of the significance of first impressions scare you; rather, it should inspire you. Now you know that you can effectively “create” a favorable first impression before you even get to your interview. Just remember how far a smile, a great jacket, and a whole bunch of confidence can take you!

Works Cited

Willis, Janine and Alexander Todorov. “First Impressions: Making Up Your Mind After a 100-Ms Exposure to a Face.” Psychological Science 17.7 (2006): 592-598.


Self-Knowing and Authenticity

Alas! We have finally reached the last blog post on Leadership Presence – self-knowing and authenticity. Over the past few weeks, we’ve discovered what leadership presence means, what it can do for you, and how to attain it. Last week we began to dissect the final piece of the puzzle in the quest to obtaining leadership presence: self-knowing. This week, we continue with this theme but discuss it in terms of authenticity.


What is authenticity? Well, at its most basic level, it means to be genuine. To be genuine is to be oneself. The ability to connect with others in the business world is of the utmost importance, however the connecting must be done genuinely, or authentically, for it to have any meaning or impact.

According to Belle Linda Halpern and Kathy Lubar, authors of “Leadership Presence: Dramatic Techniques to Reach Out, Motivate and Inspire”, there are three rules for authenticity. We shall discuss each in detail below.

Rule #1: Accept yourself and be open to growth (Halpern and Lubar 230)

Many of the greatest leaders feel comfortable and happy with themselves, despite their shortcomings. They know of their weaknesses and work to improve them, however they also accept them. When you’re aware of, and accepting of, your limitations it will allow you to develop the skills you need to overcome them. In addition, a good leader will know if their limitations cannot be overcome, at least in a timely manner, and in that case will delegate the task to someone more appropriately equipped to handle the situation. One of the best ways to accept yourself is to be open to hearing commentary about yourself and your performance, including criticism.

Rule #2: Live your values (Halpern and Lubar 235)

 In the last blog, we discussed values and how important they are to a leader. Well, it’s one thing to have values, however it’s another to put them into practice, especially in a workplace setting. Halpern and Lubar suggest leaders take two related steps in order to make sure their actions are congruent with their values:

  1. Ask others straight up if they believe you are someone who lives your values.
  2. Every time you speak of your values, ask others to tell you when your actions don’t align with your values.

It’s one thing to realize or discover that your actions don’t align with your values. If and when you do realize this, it is imperative you do some soul searching in order to figure out why this discrepancy exists, and then come up with a plan to correct the discrepancy. Remember, when your actions and values don’t align, you risk being perceived as inauthentic.

Rule #3: Create an authentic connection to work (Halpern and Lubar 240)

In order for a leader to be their most inspiring, authentic self, they must connect their values and interior life to the work that they do, similarly to how actors need to create a true connection to the characters they are portraying. At the end of the day, it is simply about creating meaning; if you truly believe in what you do and say, others will recognize that and will want to follow you. Connecting authentically with others allows the leader, as well as the led, to connect with something “bigger than themselves and their own self-interest” (Halpern and Lubar 247).

Being a leader is not about being “the boss”; it is about much more than that. It’s about inspiring, connecting, and motivating others to succeed and reach their highest potential. It is about communication, values, and the ability to make decisions. The steps we’ve outlined over the past few weeks are not necessarily the easiest things to do (opening up to others and becoming vulnerable is typically an anxiety-causing activity for most), however, if put into practice, they will help you achieve the leadership presence you deserve and need to reach the next level.

Works Cited

Halpern, Belle Linda and Kathy Lubar. Leadership Presence: Dramatic Techniques to Reach Out, Motivate and Inspire. New York: Gotham Books, 2003. Print.


Self-Knowing, Self-Reflection and Explicit Values

For the last few weeks, we’ve explored how expressiveness can help you achieve more leadership presence; for the next two weeks, we will look at the final piece of the puzzle when it comes to building your leadership presence: self-knowing. 


Leaders need explicit values (Halpern and Lubar 203)

What are values, exactly? In essence, they are your sense of what’s important to you, a set of beliefs that guide you through your day-to-day. Our values often linger under the surface of our conscious, guiding us through small decisions, and coming to the frontlines when a big decision needs to be made. According to Belle Linda Halpern and Kathy Lubar, authors of Leadership Presence: Dramatic Techniques to Reach Out, Motivate and Inspire, leaders need explicit values which in turn should be expressed, for the following reasons (203-204):

  • Followers will always want to know how their leaders think and what they want. If this is hidden to them, they will be less likely to follow.
  • Remember, leaders don’t simply delegate work; they motivate and inspire – expressing your explicit values will help you to do so.
  • As leaders take charge of larger groups, they cannot simply rely on their actions to express what they want or believe.

According to Halpern and Lubar, having clear, explicit values can help you make better decisions in difficult situations, and at a faster pace (time is money, right?). In addition, basing decisions on what you truly believe in will help you do so with more confidence, something your followers are constantly looking for in you. But what are your values? Halpern and Linda state that an easy way to concretely discover your core values is to look for them in your own life stories (205).

Guidelines for making explicit values (Halpern and Lubar 209)

In their many years of helping leaders, Halpern and Lubar have developed three guidelines to help other leaders discover their explicit values. The guidelines are the following:

Explicit values guideline #1: Pursue some regular process of self-reflection

Often, people will only self-reflect when they are forced to make a choice or when faced with a dilemma. True leaders, however, will consciously employ some type of self-reflection process of reviewing their daily experiences and learning from them; they do not wait for crisis to self-reflect. Ways of doing this are thinking symbolically and getting away regularly which can offer a change in perspective.

Explicit Values Guideline #2: Write down your personal leadership values

Why should you write down your own values if you know them already? Good question. Writing down your leadership values will make speaking them far easier. There is an assumption that your actions speak for themselves, but at the end of the day, that is still an assumption. Writing down your values will help you stay consistent over time, and help you chose language that engages others. Writing down your values includes two simply steps: firstly, chose 3-5 values most important to you as a leader. Secondly, for each value, recall a life story that illustrates that value.

Explicit Values Guideline #3: Speak your leadership values

Halpern and Lubar often encourage the leaders they work with to put themselves in situations in which they can freely speak their values, in an appropriate and explicit way. However, it is understand that speaking about our values is not always easy or comfortable. The authors suggest using stories, as they are powerful, and engage the heart and the mind

A leader is only as strong as his group of followers. If followers do not listen or trust in their leader, they cannot be considered a leader. In order for trust to exist, a leader must show themselves, who they truly are and what they believe in.

This week, examine your set of values, write them down and practice telling them to others. Become comfortable sharing stories that relate to your values – this will help you expand and strengthen your leadership presence, propelling you to the next level.

Works Cited

Halpern, Belle Linda and Kathy Lubar. Leadership Presence: Dramatic Techniques to Reach Out, Motivate and Inspire. New York: Gotham Books, 2003. Print.


Expressiveness Using Voice, Body and Story

As our series on Leadership Presence continues this week, we look even closer at the power of expression and how it can enhance your ability to lead. Last week, we looked at the role of emotions and how they drive expressiveness; this week, we will look in detail into how voice, body and story can help you become more expressive.

According to Belle Linda Halpern and Kathy Lubar, there are three rules for expressiveness. Below, we will look at each in detail.

Rule #1: Conquer your fear of overexpression (Halpern and Lubar 163)

 The fear, in most business situations, is being too expressive, as we think it might resemble flamboyancy (an often non-desired trait in the business world, especially if one wants to be considered a leader). The authors suggest thinking of your “expressive ability” in terms of a dial, 1 being very low and 10 being very high. They state that on average, people in a business setting have their dials “set” to between 1 and 3; they suggest a better area is between 3 and 7.

Needless to say, your dial should change according to your circumstance. A on-on-one meeting probably does not necessitate a dial setting of 7. In addition, Halpern and Lubar state that as you move along the leadership spectrum from “responsible” to “assertive”, you will need to become more or less expressive – for example, the more assertive you’re trying to be, the more expressive you should become (164).

Being an introvert is not an excuse for not being expressive. As a matter of fact, some extroverts can be over the top expressive and annoy others. When it comes to our first pillar of Executive Presence: First Impressions, we emphasize the importance of the impact we make when meeting people for the first time. The introvert who does not participate in a two-way conversation may risk becoming suspicious to others. We agree with the authors that you need to move up the scale without tipping it as some extroverts may do.

Rule #2: Using your voice and body congruently (Halpern and Lubar 165) 

Halpern and Lubar explain that a problem they often encounter when dealing with business people is that many do not speak with congruency; that is to say, their words and their body language do not match. Imagine how problematic it would be in a business situation to be saying one thing, but for your body to be saying something completely different? The price, according to Halpern and Lubar, is tremendous: loss of credibility.

Dr. Albert Mehrabian’s research suggests strong evidence on the importance of congruence, as we write about in this previous blog post.

But how can you become more congruent? Here are some tips:

  • Relax
  • Variety in your language, body and voice (so as not to lose your audience)
  • Marry language to passion (your choice of words does matter – it will ensure you are passionate and excited about what you’re speaking of, and will in turn excite your audience. Ways of doing this includes the use of quotes, using vivid imagery and metaphor, and taking notes from great orators)
  • Vocal variety – no monotone allowed!!
  • Be conscious of your body language
  • Take up space (recall Amy Cuddy’s research) 

Rule #3: Tell Stories to unleash your expressiveness (Halpern and Lubar 175)

Storytelling is a great way for you to naturally speak with congruence. According to the authors: “Stories help you automatically pull together every means of expression and compensate for any lack of formal training in voice and body movement” (175).

Stories can help with expressing emotion in two ways: firstly, they give you permission to take on roles, therefore allowing for heightened expression. Secondly, stories generate emotional responses from audience members (176).

Halpern and Lubar offer some tips to help you in your storytelling ventures (178):

  • Use the present tense to enhance the immediacy of the story
  • Use bullet phrases (as opposed to long, run-on sentences)
  • Use descriptive and sensory language to keep your audience involved
  • Use variety in your face, body and tone of voice

Many of us exhibit some level of anxiety when it comes to speaking in front of others or when giving a presentation. These tips can help you become more confident, more congruent, and more engaged. In turn, your audience will respect, listen to, and be genuinely interested in, what you have to say.

This week, challenge yourself to put these ideas into practice; practice at home in front of the mirror, and if you’re daring, try filming yourself so that you may re-watch yourself and see what needs tweaking.

Works Cited

Halpern, Belle Linda and Kathy Lubar. Leadership Presence: Dramatic Techniques to Reach Out, Motivate and Inspire. New York: Gotham Books, 2003. Print.

Emotions Drive Expressiveness

Over the last two weeks, we looked at reaching out as it relates to leadership presence, and how you can use empathy and the power of making connections to build your leadership presence. This week, as well as next week, we will be looking at expressiveness and where it fits in the quest for leadership presence.


This week, we will examine how you can use emotions to drive expressiveness. According to Belle Linda Halpern and Kathy Lubar, expressiveness is “the ability to express feelings and emotion appropriately by using all means of expressing – words, voice, body, face – to deliver one congruent message” (129).

Communication is not simply about what you say – in fact, what you say is only a small part of how you communicate with others. For example, Albert Mehrabian, a social scientist, conducted a study in which business people were rated by listeners in three different areas: their choice of words, the tone of their voice and their body language. Results show that the most important factor in determining the impact of an overall message was body language (Halpern and Lubar 133). I had the opportunity to speak to Dr. Mehrabien a few years ago and discuss his book “The Silent Message”. We express ourselves both verbally and non-verbally. If our words aren’t congruent with our body language, people will believe what they see not what they hear.

Should Leaders Express Feelings and Emotions?

The notion that leaders are calm, dispassionate and always in control is a fallacy, however it is a widely held one. One might think that emotions can serve to undermine authority, or perhaps even connote a lack of control, but it is in fact the opposite. It is impossible to have presence of any kind (including leadership presence) without showing vulnerability.

According to Halpern and Lubar, “Possessing [the ability to recognize and express emotion] will make a leader more effective and set the emotional tone and energy level of the whole organization” (139). As mentioned in the post about empathy, being able to recognize and feel others’ emotions is crucial, but so is the expression of your own. Remaining calm under chaos is critical to leadership presence and when losing control is out of character, others will pause and pay attention.

Expressing Emotion Guideline #1: Generating Excitement by Expressing Emotion (Halpern and Lubar 142)

Expressed enthusiasm typically generates an enthusiastic response. Perhaps expressing emotion does not come naturally to you, and it may make you feel uncomfortable, however the results will surely be worth the uneasiness.

But what about women? Do the same rules apply? Expressing emotion as a woman in a business setting can play into the stereotype that women can’t handle their emotions. However, for both men and women, if you own your emotions and feel comfortable with them, others will too.

Something to keep in mind: the authors are not condoning free expression of all emotions all the time, regardless of the situation, but rather they state that “Because the expression of emotion is such a powerful tool for leaders, it must be used carefully. That’s why we don’t advocate the expression of any and all feelings, regardless of consequences” (Halpern and Lubar 146).

Expressing Emotion Guideline #2: Express Authentic Emotion (Halpern and Lubar 147)

Needless to say, the emotions expressed by a leader must be authentic, otherwise others will notice their inauthenticity, and the leader will be perceived as a phony. In order to elicit authentic expression of emotion from others, it must first come from you, the leader. I recall listening to Gordon Nixon, the CEO of the Royal Bank of Canada in 2012. He said the reason why they were the no.1 bank in Canada was that they understood people weren’t fools. I always said, “fake it till you make it and know you’ll soon be found out.” People are not fools.

Expressing Emotion Guideline #3: Invest Passionate Purpose Into Your Words and Actions (Halpern and Lubar 150)

Ask yourself, “What is the purpose of this meeting?” or perhaps even “What is the purpose of this email?” beyond the obvious purpose. Instead of just needing to share information with someone, perhaps the deeper purpose is to spread knowledge so that the other individual may benefit in his or her current position, and in turn can help to grow the company. This will enhance your output of emotion into the message, and in turn will affect how others read your message.

Halpern and Lubar state that no communication needs to be dull – rather, every conversation or exchange of words represents the opportunity to change minds (153). With this in mind, challenge yourself this week to step out of your comfort zone (if your comfort zone does not already include expressing your emotions with ease), and find ways to express your emotions in meaningful ways, all with the end goal of increasing your leadership presence!

“At the end of the day people won’t remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.”                                                                                                                              – Maya Angelou

Works Cited

Halpern, Belle Linda and Kathy Lubar. Leadership Presence: Dramatic Techniques to Reach Out, Motivate and Inspire. New York: Gotham Books, 2003. Print.