This week, America is celebrating National Etiquette Week, which is a national recognition of etiquette and protocol in all areas of day-to-day life, including business, social, dining, travel, technology, and international protocol. There are various events being held across the country, but the focus is to raise awareness about etiquette and to encourage people to act with courtesy,
respect and dignity.
Unfortunately, Canada does not have an equivalent to National Etiquette Week, however that does not mean we can’t celebrate alongside our neighbors to the south! In honour of National Etiquette Week, this post will offer some back-to-the-basics reminders of a few very fundamental aspects of etiquette – the things we often forget or don’t deem necessary, but are in fact the building blocks of etiquette, and the foundation of our EP.
A few simple reminders:
- Handshakes: handshakes are often the first point of physical contact between you and a colleague or someone you’re meeting for the first time, and therefore they are of crucial importance. Remember to always offer your hand right away as a gesture of respect and acknowledgement. It is important to shake the other person’s hand firmly and to make full contact with their hand (no half handshakes, please!). Your handshake says a lot about you, so practice it with friends or colleagues.
- The dining table: of course there is enough here for many blog posts, however I will touch upon a few basics, things we may often forget are important. Never begin eating your meal until the host has started eating theirs; that is your cue to begin. This may go without saying, but no elbows on the table! Not only is it rude, but it also gives the impression that you have bad posture. Perhaps most importantly, don’t ever chew with your mouth open, no matter how informal the meal. It is rude, lazy, and not very appetizing! Lastly, don’t forget to place your knife and fork in the proper finishing position: knife on the right, blade facing in, and fork on the left, in a 10 and 4 position.
- Eye contact: one might not initially think that eye contact has much to do with etiquette at all, on the contrary, it has everything to do with it. When you hold eye contact with someone who’s talking, you are actually showing him or her that you are listening and paying attention. It shows respect, awareness, and that you’re interested in what they have to say. The same is true the other way around; if you are speaking, hold eye contact with your audience, no matter how big or small, as it shows that you care about what you’re talking about, and it will help engage your audience so that they begin to care as well.
National Etiquette Week should be celebrated everywhere; etiquette possess no boundaries. Take this week and challenge yourself to pay attention to your manners, etiquette, and overall presence. Don’t forget the little things, because it is those little things, such as basic table manners, which truly speak to your Executive Presence.