Whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert when it comes to entering a room full of strangers you break into a sweat and have butterflies flying in your stomach. Working a room can be hard, if you don’t know what you’re doing.
A recent post I read talks about the top four most “uncomfortable” moments when working a room:
- Starting the interaction
- Breaking off an ongoing conversation
- Bringing someone new into your conversation
- Interrupting an ongoing conversation
The post offers a few pointers on the last point, “interrupting an ongoing conversation,” as that can be one of the most uncomfortable things to do from the above four.
So if you want to walk up to a group and join their conversation, here are some tips:
First, take a deep breath & realize that people in networking events EXPECT you to break into their conversations. You’re introducing them to new people (yourself) without them having to interrupt someone else’s conversation. Some people will be absolutely giddy that you’re rescuing them from the previous conversation.
Second, breaking into someone else’s conversation takes some guts but it gets easier with practice. It’s as easy as A-B-C:
A. Do what you would do if you saw someone you already know. That is, walk up & catch the eye of one member of the group, then stick out your hand to shake his/her hand.
B. Say, “Excuse me. I’m ____. May I join your conversation?” Amazingly creative, huh? But, as with “Open Sesame,” the group will magically open up to make room for you.
C. Sometimes the group is in a meaty conversation when you walk up, so just introduce yourself briefly with your name (no elevator speech at this point) & say, “You looked as if you were in an interesting conversation when I walked up. Please continue.”
Building your business network by working a room well can be as easy as A-B-C if you know how to do it well and with confidence.
When it comes to business networking, the little things you do make a big difference.
Interpersonal Communication Skills training can be a great way to learn all about working a room including tips on reading body language, prepping up your conversation skills, perfecting your handshake and much more.