Maybe you call him Dad, Pops or Papa, even Tom, Dimitri or Geraldo. In these days of blended families, chances are you reserve the word “Father” for that special day in June that always falls on the third Sunday. This year, the 21st is Father’s Day.
There’s no doubt about it, Father’s Day is a triumph of commercialization. In fact, back in the 1930’s, it was a New York City association of men’s retailers that successfully lobbied to legitimatize the holiday. Many would credit this group with turning it into the tie-fest we know today. The bottom line is, Father’s Day falls on a Sunday, and it’s summertime. Who needs any more excuses to celebrate?
Maybe your style is to toast dad with a big-deal brunch or barbeque. Perhaps it’s a long distance phone call to a father far away, or sometimes a simple e-mail will suffice. Or maybe you’re not quite sure of the protocol when Dimitri, or Tom, or “Dad” – isn’t really your father.
There are no hard and fast rules. Here are some guidelines to ensure every dad, daughter, son – and mom – has a great day.
- Parents divorced and your mom remarried
Clearly, your father comes first, but by definition, your mom’s husband is your stepfather. If you have a strong bond with him, or even a good solid relationship, consider a card. He’ll be thrilled and your mom will be over the moon. A card sends a strong message of approval – you’ll make mom’s day, too. - Your widowed mom remarried
Circumstance dictates decorum: Great guy, truly enjoy his company, treats you like his own kid? This calls for a personalized card, perhaps a gift, or even an invitation to your backyard barbeque. Here is a day to truly show your appreciation. - Your mom has a “partner”
If no civil or religious marriage ceremony took place, her partner is not your stepfather. Courtesy and kindness rule; ultimately, it’s up to you. - Father figures
Could be your grandfather, godfather, or father-in-law who come to mind on this special Sunday. Let him know – a call, a card or a coffee, shared. As the saying goes: presence counts more than presents.
With all this chatter about barbeques, check out these delicious recipes:
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Posted on June 18th, 2009 by Diane
Filed under: Holiday Etiquette
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