9 keys to email etiquette
Posted by dcraig in Online Etiquette on April 15, 2012
CBS News
Dave Johnson, April 11 2012
Most people never master the many intricacies of dining etiquette — which fork to use first, in which direction to pass dishes — but the stakes aren’t especially high in that venue. Email etiquette, on the other hand, is a critically important skill to master. Email like a bumpkin and you are likely to alienate your partners, clients, co-workers… possibly even your boss.
Here are my favorite rules of the road for email:
1. Reply — No matter what. Acknowledge promptly that you received a message. If no particular response is required, just say “thanks.” If you own an “action item” but can’t get to it for a while, let the sender know you saw the message and estimate when you expect to reply. But don’t let mail pile up in your inbox without acknowledging its receipt.
2. If you’re on the CC line, don’t reply. There are exceptions to the rule, of course, but you’re on the CC line for a reason — and that reason is “for information only.” Let the folks on the “to” line do their job, unless someone specifically invites you into the conversation.
3. Don’t forget the attachments. Sure, everyone makes mistakes, but you shouldn’t be “that guy” who always forgets to include attachments, fails to spell-check the email, or omits the subject line. Indeed, you might want to use a tool that makes sure your emails always have subject lines and attachments when you write something like “attachment enclosed.”
4. Answer all questions. A favorite email trick is to cherry-pick a long email and only respond to the easy questions, or the issues you want to deal with, as if the sender will somehow forget that there are other questions left unresolved. Deal with each question or issue, even if it means acknowledging you don’t know the answer. But don’t make people re-ask the same questions over and over because you chose to ignore half the email.
5. Bottom line up front. I have mentioned the BLUF method many times, and it bears repeating — don’t waste your recipient’s time. Be direct and clear about the point of the email right away, then give additional context. Don’t make people wade through 300 words of back-story before they reach the action item or primary request.
6. Keep the subject line current. If an email’s subject diverges over the course of a long thread from the original topic, it’s okay to change the subject line. Indeed, the other recipients will silently thank you for your thoughtfulness.
7. Be careful about your tone. It’s hard to read tone in an email, which is why emoticons were invented. Be careful not to inject attitude or sarcasm into your replies, and give emails that you think have “an attitude” the benefit of the doubt. Also be really careful when trying to be funny — it’s easy to misinterpret humor in email. Bottom line: No matter how you feel about the people you’re communicating with or the contents of the message, go out of your way to always be upbeat and polite.
8. Lose the emoticons. Likewise, most business email shouldn’t have little smileys in them. They make you look goofy and unprofessional.
9. Know the specific cultural mores at your company. Everything I’ve suggested here has exceptions. Learn the specific etiquette of your own company — ask your boss or a co-worker if you’re new and not sure. Some businesses want to minimize email and frown on one-line “thanks!” emails, for example. Others like a lighter tone and encourage emoticons. There’s no one-size fits all guidance for how to communicate in email.
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3 Rules for Building Business Relationships
Posted by dcraig in Networking on April 15, 2012
Inc
Karl Stark and Bill Stewart
Are you generating the most value from your professional relationships? Here are three ways to quickly inject some life into your network.
Ask any entrepreneur or salesperson (one might argue there is no difference) about their greatest asset and you’ll often hear the same answer: their network and relationships.
Countless bestsellers have been written on how to cultivate and nurture relationships. Why is it then that we see so many people not taking advantage of the opportunities to broaden their network and engage with those who could potentially be their next great partner?
As our firm continues to grow and we bring in top talent from a variety of companies and professional backgrounds, we realize that each of us has a strong network of relationships that we aren’t fully leveraging.
Here are three ways to improve the way you nurture your network to get the most out of your professional relationships.
1. Focus on the value that you can provide to your network and not necessarily on what the person can provide for you. If you can provide value to someone in your network with limited time and resource investment, do it! Aside from the fact that it is a nice gesture, you can be sure you’ll be top of mind next time this person or someone in their network has a need that fits your area of expertise.
2. Being a relationship “broker” can offer significant benefits to your personal and professional brand. While you should always be sensitive to busy people’s time, simply making an introduction between two people in your network who share a common interest or challenge can do wonders for each of these individual relationships.
3. Don’t let personal fears get in the way of forming new relationships. It is far easier to talk to people you already know than it is to form new relationships. Explore the boundaries of your comfort zone to put yourself in a position to form new, productive relationships whenever an opportunity arises. It is never an easy task, but proactively expanding your network can pay off in dividends for your personal and professional development.
It’s generally preferable to have fewer high-quality relationships than hundreds of low-quality relationships. By following these simple steps, you can begin to improve the quality of your professional relationships – a skill that is admired by many but mastered by few.
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5 New Ways to Network (That You Won’t Dread)
Posted by dcraig in Networking on April 15, 2012
Forbes
April 10 2012
If you want to groan every time you hear the word “networking,” well, I don’t exactly blame you. The word conjures images of uncomfortable schmooze-fests, where suit-clad business executives work the room, wine glass in hand, feigned interest at the ready. Who would enjoy that?
But guess what? Networking doesn’t have to be that bad—in fact, it shouldn’t be. The goal is to meet new people and expand your professional network, and there’s no reason those activities have to be confined to conferences and industry happy hours.
All it takes is a little imagination, and networking might even be kind of fun. These five ideas will help you get started.
1. Reinvent the Meet-and-Mingle
Is there an activity you’ve been wanting to try, or a new skill you’d like to learn? Pick an activity—like taking up golf, learning to make your own wine, joining a book club, or anything else that other stressed-out professionals might do to unwind—and try it out! (Groupon is a great place to look for new ideas.) People in a relaxed, social setting are usually more open to conversation, which makes this the perfect opportunity to open up, ask questions, and build new relationships.
2. Be In With the In Crowd
In nearly every big city, there are at least a few restaurants where the politicos, the PR people, or the state workers like to go to mingle with their own. Even professional chefs have their favorite after-hours haunts. And a little legwork or friendly conversation with a knowledgeable bartender will give you some ideas of the hot spots in your industry. So, pick your place, grab a friend, cozy up to the bar, and strike up a conversation with the person next to you. Putting yourself (literally) next to other people in your field will increase your chances of networking success.
3. Take Up a Cause
Consider volunteering your time where your heart is. Pick a local church, animal sanctuary, or non-profit where you can put in a few hours after work or on a weekend alongside other people in your area. Or, lend your professional expertise to a neighborhood school: Put together a presentation (complete with handouts) about your field for career night, when parents (read: new contacts) are also in attendance.
4. Work It
Fundraisers usually have no trouble finding people who are happy to fork over $200, get dressed up, and enjoy the wine and hors d’oeuvres—what they really need is extra hands. So call your favorite charity and offer to work the registration desk. You’ll get to be there for the entire event, you’ll have a built-in chance to meet and talk with the (often high-profile) attendees, and you won’t have to pay a dime to do so.
5. Reconnect With Your Past
College and high school reunions or alumni events are the hidden gems of the networking world. They offer a room full of people with diverse interests and careers who you already know (or at least, who you have something to talk about with)! So, after you reminisce with your former classmates, club-mates, and sorority sisters, strike up a conversation about their careers, and talk about yours. Your old friends could be (or at least put you in touch with) valuable connections.
Whether you’re looking to leave your dead-end job or just want to connect with people who may lead you to your next career move, face-to-face networking is still one of the best job search tactics out there. And if you’re willing to think outside the box, it might actually be fun, too.
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Message Mix Up: When a Nasty Email
Reaches the Wrong Hands
Reaches the Wrong Hands
Posted by dcraig in Online Etiquette on April 15, 2012
Emily Post
April 12 2012
Q: What is the best thing to do it you send an e-mail to someone by mistake, and the e-mail contains some content that is not favorable toward that person?
A: First of all, don’t compound your error by sending an e-mail saying “disregard the e-mail I sent earlier.” All this will do is persuade your unintended recipient to read the earlier e-mail immediately. Instead, make a point of getting to the person before he comes looking for you. If you’re in luck, he won’t have seen the offending e-mail yet. But either way, a sincere apology is your best recourse: “Tom, have you read my e-mail? You haven’t? Good, because I want you to know that I said some things I’m embarrassed about, and I’m very sorry. I hope this can be water over the dam for us, because I truly value our friendship.” Second, vow to avoid the problem altogether from now on by hitting “Draft” or “Send Later” after typing your message. This lets you go back and double-check e-mails written in haste. With some distance, you’ll see where you should tone down the content, saving yourself the grief of having to correct a mistake after the fact.
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French Fries – How Do I Eat Them?
Posted by dcraig in Dining Etiquette on April 15, 2012
Emily Post
Cindy Post Senning, January 26 2012
There are many foods that present a classic dilemma for diners young and old. The question is, “fork or fingers?” The answer is sometimes definitive – you definitely eat your peas and mashed potatoes with a fork. That’s a no-brainer. But how about french fries? It’s a sometimes fingers/sometimes forks answer: If the food the french fries are served with is a finger food – a sandwich or a hot dog on a bun – you can eat the french fries with your fingers also. If the food is a fork food – steak or a broiled chicken cutlet, for instance – then you eat the french fries with a fork.
One other basic rule of thumb has to do with ketchup and gravy. If you’ve smothered your french fries with either, you should use a fork to eat them.
However you manage them, french fries can be pretty delicious. Enjoy!
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Is it rude to go to the bathroom during dinner?
Posted by dcraig in Dining Etiquette on April 15, 2012
Globe & Mail
Chris Nuttall-Smith, April 14 2012
The question
My wife and I have the same argument every time we go out for dinner. We’ve been having it for 27 years. She says it’s rude to leave the table to use the facilities while there’s food in front of you. I say if ya gotta go, ya gotta go. Is there some sort of rule I haven’t heard of? Because, aside from my wife, I’ve never heard anybody else complain.
The answer
If you’ve got to go, I suppose you do, though I can’t help wondering why, after 27 years, you haven’t just learned to squeeze in a good tinkle immediately after ordering your food. (We are just talking about tinkling here, correct?)
As to whether there’s a rule: No, there is not. But if you leave the table with a plate of food in front of you, the food gets cold and your wife has to eat alone. Plus, with apologies to the overactive-bladder set, there’s something just kind of weird about taking four bites of food and then heading to the loo.
Listen to your wife, bub. She’s a good and patient woman. And maybe lay off the pre-dinner Super Big Gulps, too.
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I love high heels – but my feet don’t. Should I give them up?
Posted by dcraig in Fashion, Female Focused Content, Image on April 15, 2012
Globe & Mail
Dr. Sheila Wijayasinghe, July 19 2011
The question
I love my pretty shoes, but my feet hurt more and more often now that I’ve hit 35. Should I never wear heels again?
The answer
We all have shoes that look great but leave our feet sore and uncomfortable after wearing them.
Your concern is important: high heels and any improperly fitted shoes can cause real health problems such as deformed toes, heel pain, bunions, ingrown nails and corns. A specific concern with high heels is that with prolonged use, they can lead to a shortening of the Achilles tendon (the tendon that connects the calf muscle to the heel bone).
Over time, the shortening of the tendon can make it hard for the heel to fully touch the ground and can lead to heel pain and difficulty wearing flat shoes.
If your feet hurt, they’re telling you something. While you don’t need to get rid of all of your heels, change your shoe habits with a few of these tips:
1. Wear the right fit: While this may seem obvious, it can be tricky to find shoes that fit properly. When you’re trying on shoes, keep in mind that foot shape and size can change over years so your size 5 years ago may be different today. Also, purchase your shoes later in the day when your size may be larger due to normal swelling and fit your shoes while standing up as your feet lengthen slightly when standing. Don’t forget to fit both feet and choose your size based on your larger foot. When shoe stores tell you that the shoe will stretch to fit your foot, use caution as this is not always the case and tight-fitting shoes can lead to discomfort.
2. Higher is not always better: Heels that are higher than 2 inches can interfere with balance and posture which can trigger not only foot and heel pain but also knee, hip and back problems. According to the American Orthopaedic Foot and Ankle Society, women should wear shoes with a height of no more than two and a quarter inches. They also recommend that shoes at these heights should be worn no more than two or three hours each day.
3. Find comfortable heels: There are newer styles of heels that have cushioned soles, which will help with shock absorption and arch support. Also, wedge heels are better than stilletos, as they help to spread out pressure points and give better support to the entire foot.
4. Stretch after wear: After wearing heels, even if for 2-3 hours, gently stretch your Achilles tendon to help decrease the risk of the tendon shortening.
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Do Long Pants Over Heels
Really Make Me Look Taller?
Really Make Me Look Taller?
Globe & Mail
Russell Smith, April 7 2012
The question
When magazines give tips for how short, stocky women (like me) should dress, they often suggest wearing long trousers that go over and completely cover high heels or platforms. The idea is to create an illusion of longer legs. Does this ever look anything but silly?
The answer
The only way for this to work physically is for your trouser legs to be quite wide, so as to fit over the shoe and drop right to the sole. So, if you try it, you are, whether you feel funky or not, embracing a 1970s wide-leg aesthetic that is itself quite bold.
This association with the thrift store and the faded album cover might explain why wide-leg women’s trousers so frequently look cheap, even if they aren’t. That and the fact that if you wear them so long as to touch the ground, they are likely to get dusty. I always fear that they are going to make their wearers trip.
Furthermore, it’s a great waste of feminine power to cover your shoes. You’re going through all the discomfort of wearing tall heels but no one can see this dramatically sexy part of your ensemble. And you know, in general, all these tips for creating optical illusions – vertical stripes to make you thinner, wide collars for wide faces – don’t really work. A skirt or dress, even with flat shoes, will always get you more attention than the illusion of height will.
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Personal image does make a difference
Posted by dcraig in Executive Presence on April 15, 2012
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Katy Piotrowski, April 6 2012
Remember the last time you waltzed into work looking and feeling great, and how the rest of your day just seemed to go better, too? NoCo style expert Michelle Vos says you should make it a priority to project that panache nearly every day.
Here’s why: 93 percent of communication is nonverbal, so how you look is a huge part of how you convey your capabilities. While it’s typical for career-minded professionals to invest in an effective company image – snappy website, and business cards – most of us don’t carry that same style through in our personal appearance. “People want to know the real you, and for your message and your image to align with each other,” said Vos.
Chances are, if you have a closet full of “nothing to wear,” you’re a prime candidate for improving your professional image. Vos recommends these steps:
» Accept your body as it is today. Improve your belief in your body over time by writing a few notes daily in a journal about what you appreciate about your appearance. For example, I like being tall (by the way, most people say I don’t look as tall in my column photo).
» Try on every piece of clothing, and pack away what doesn’t fit. Tight or baggy clothes communicate that you don’t know yourself well. I ousted a suit with pants that haven’t fit me well in a long time.
» Analyze why you love the clothes you enjoy wearing most. One of my favorite looks is a black skirt with a unique buckle, a white blouse, and an animal print scarf. In it, I feel fun, fashionable, and very “me.” I also feel as though I can tackle pretty tough challenges while wearing it.
» Aim to create a two-word label that describes your ideal style best, and use this label as a guide in clothing choices. Vos’ is “global chic”, and I settled on “fresh professional.”
Capitalizing on an effective personal image gives you a valuable advantage toward achieving your goals. Plus you’ll look marvelous, dahling!
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Email Etiquette:
Peers, Professors and Professionals
Peers, Professors and Professionals
Posted by dcraig in Online Etiquette on April 15, 2012
ZDNet
Charlie Osborne, April 9 2012
The Generation Y. Known for smiley faces, overly-enthusiastic use of exclamation marks, and doubtlessly the odd typographic mistake or two.
It is easy for a less formal style of communication to creep into emails that should reflect a more professional image, however, it can make an individual look unprofessional or lazy — and may confuse the recipient if they cannot ‘translate’ slang or text-speak.
How can you impress a future employer, professor or professional peer through email, and create a good impression?
1. Stick to a professional email address.
I’m afraid ‘vampiregurl20xxx@hotmail.com’, ’spoiledprincezzz@gmail.com’ and ’surfingstud909@aol.com’ just don’t cut it anymore. If you cannot sign up for an email address that displays your full name, consider adding the initial of a middle name, or shortening your first name as appropriate.
2. Greet the recipient, properly.
Hi!, Hey You! or Yo! should be kept in between conversations with friends. If you are contacting someone for the first time, don’t misspell the person’s name. Check any documentation you have to find the correct spelling, or look it up online.
Use the correct salutation:
- In business, if you are addressing a woman, ‘Ms.’ is appropriate — marital status is irrelevant in this kind of communication.
- If someone has a doctoral or medical degree, ‘Dr. [Last name] is correct in email etiquette.
- If no name is supplied, ‘Dear Sir or Madam’ is always acceptable. If you know the gender of the recipient, alter this as appropriate.
3. Capitalize and punctuate
If your emails are all written in lower-case and contain no capitalization or punctuation, you simply look lazy. Take a brief moment and read through the email before you send it, and fix any glaring errors. A message littered with mistakes will not be taken seriously.
4. Stay clear of emoticons, unless they do it first.
There are cases where the recipient is happy to use a less formal method of communication — if they use formatting such as emoticons, then it is possible (although not necessarily advisable) for you to do so. However, if in business, stay clear anyway.
5. Be gentle with exclamation marks.
Would you SCREAM EVERY SENTENCE at your professor during a lecture? Or bellow your answers in a job interview? It’s rude, unnecessary and an eyesore. There’s no point releasing the ‘Caps of Fury’ if you’re trying to make a good impression.
6. Use standard formatting practices.
The cute kitten animation tagged on to your signature or the 14-pt Comic Sans font may be your personal favorite, but it is not appropriate in formal settings. Stick with a readable size, color and a standard font.
7. Quotes from movies or famous people in your signature are asking for disaster.
Go nuts on your Tumblr account, but leave email communications out of trying to enlighten the populace with profound quotes.
8. Reflect your recipient’s style.
This technique is also used in body language studies — by ‘reflecting’ the person you are communicating with, you are more likely to receive a favorable response. If the other person favors email summaries or shorthand notifications in the subject line, do it. If they use a particular form of email etiquette, take note.
9. Stay the need for ‘translation’.
A properly worded email that is concise and easy to understand will probably receive a response more promptly than an email that requires effort. The less effort required to reply, the quicker it may be. Essays or poorly-worded messages will get you nowhere — especially in a world where inboxes are flooded on a daily basis.
10. Suitability
Be aware that email conversations may not necessarily remain private, and can be exchanged, forwarded, or taken from servers. Anything that can be considered libelous, defamatory, offensive or racist — steer clear.
It is not uncommon for staff to be fired for the contents of an email, and in the case of students, you may find yourself attending a disciplinary hearing.
11. Do not attach unnecessarily files.
Sending large attachments that are unwanted can annoy your recipient, and for some servers may cause system crashes or cause emails to bounce back. If you have to send a large file, compress it first using .zip or .rar.
12. Add a disclaimer to your emails.
In order to protect yourself as much as possible, include a legal disclaimer at the bottom. An example of a common business-based disclaimer is:
This email and any attachments to it may be confidential and are intended solely for the use of the individual to whom it is addressed. Any views or opinions expressed are solely those of the author and do not necessarily represent those of [business name].
If you are not the intended recipient of this email, you must neither take any action based upon its contents, nor copy or show it to anyone.
13. Think ‘text’ rather than ‘novel’.
When there are hundreds of emails left unread in your inbox, half of which are emblazoned with irritating ‘URGENT’ or ‘IMPORTANT’ subject tags, if you open an email to find it is approaching the length of the last novel you read, it will most likely stay there for some time.
If the email has to be long, for example a copy of a report, then include ‘Long’ in the subject heading to give the recipient fair warning.
14. Use email copy functions courteously.
Directly instilling a CC copy shows more confidence than a covert BCC move to prevent others from seeing multiple viewers; and it may just come back to haunt you later. However, BCC is suitable if an email is being sent from a large distribution list.
15. When you use text-based communication, tone is lost.
A phrase or joke that may be hilarious face-to-face does not necessarily translate well into text. Sarcasm or irony can be taken the wrong way, so be careful — especially if it can be misconstrued as offensive.
16. Use the subject field to accurately reflect the email’s content.
It is not a PR campaign, and you are not vying for click-through rates. Make the subject header relevant and save both yourself and the respondent time.
17. Close an email properly
If in doubt, copy what your recipient has already used. If you are sending an email for the first time, some choices are:
- Best Regards,
- Cordially,
- Best Wishes,
- Many Thanks,
- Sincerely,
- Regards,
- Thank You,
18. Include a relevant signature.
Make sure you can be contacted easily, and if you are going to be on leave for specific dates, include this information in you signature.
A relevant signature should include your name, mailing address, email address, phone number, and if you wish — social media accounts such as a Twitter or LinkedIn profile.
19. Avoid graphics and backgrounds in email.
These are unnecessary, increase an email’s size, hog memory and can make messages difficult to read. Animations are an absolute red-light disaster zone, as well as often not user friendly for disabled viewers.
20. Final thoughts:
- Email is a written form of communication — and is not private or confidential. Write nothing that may cause you problems later on if it were made public.
- Keep copies of your emails, both sent and received.
- You are reflecting both yourself and potentially a business or institution when you send a message. Keep this in mind and make sure everything is to the point, clear and concise.
- It takes very little effort to use a spellchecker — don’t forget.
- Remember to show appreciation when you receive responses. Not only does it mean you value someone’s time, but a word of thanks can go a long way.
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